Self-acceptance of being an open lesbian creates a higher self-esteem and gives you more power in life. When you're ready to open that door to find a lesbian significant other, there's lots of roads and opportunities for that path.
Become comfortable being lesbian. Sometimes, when you hide your sexuality, others may think you're not lesbian and won't try to kick up a relationship with you for fear of a let-down. Come out to loved ones you feel comfortable coming out to. The more you are open with your sexuality, the better chance you have of other girls picking up on that and wanting to be with you.
Introduce yourself to people. Not just girls you think are attractive, but men, too. They could have connections to single girls. The more outgoing and friendly you are, the more inviting you will be to girls. Keep discussions lightweight and away from yourself to be more appealing.
Join an LGBT group in your community. You will get to talk to people who are going through some of the same issues you are facing - and you might find a date.
Join an online dating service. Lots of dating sites allow you to search members around you. It's a good feature that you can easily find lesbian girls who live near you. Browse around first to make sure the site has local active members who interest you before you commit to paying a fee.
Be yourself. Being someone you're not just to get with someone is a big no-no. If a girl doesn't like who you are naturally, it won't work out in the long run even if you do hook up briefly.
Show that you're interested, but avoid being too forward. If you come on too strong, it's a turn-off whether she was interested or not. Smile and show confidence. Be friendly and welcoming, and definitely go talk to her, but don't be cocky, pushy or aggressive.
Take your time. Don't be in a rush to get just any girlfriend. You have your whole life to find your soul mate. It's very hard to find Ms. Right when you're dragging around all the time with Ms. Wrong because you made promises too early and didn't give yourself enough time to play the field a little bit. Finding a love that will last forever doesn't always happen in a flash.
Ask her out. Don't wait for what feels like eternity for her to ask. She could be a bit shyer and nervous about asking you out, and taking that giant step can make her yours.
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